Turn Offs

It is true that Men and Women are from different planets. Despite the thousands of years these different species have coexisted, there still seem to be some misunderstandings. Lately I have been trying to figure out how to be a great partner to my boyfriend. I am trying to understand him, being patient with him, but am not so sure if he is doing the same. Don't get me wrong, we love each other so much, but just the fact that we can not agree on everything due to our differences in so many angles, there have been incidents when he drives me nuts, and I am sure I drive him crazy as well. The thought that made me want to share this today is the fact that; men and women haven't been honest with each other. And when one tries to be honest the other party will think they are being manipulated or treated not fairly or otherwise, but that is never the case. At least to those that love each other, they would take criticism with love. I would like to share personal feelings about the things that turn me off. Am not only talking about sexually, but all the mood turn offs in a relationship. 1. When I try to be romantic, send him a cute message not because there is anything I want but just to show him that I am thinking about him and he doesn't do anything, not even send a smiley face to show appreciation; or if I walk behind him and get my hands under his shirt and he pretends as if he didn't feel a thing. 2. All work no play - a guy who is always on his phone, computer, tablet with school or work. A guy who is always in a rush to get things at work done and forgets to spend time with me, I'd say he is not that much into me than in his work/school. 3. Sometimes you wonder why most men are not romantic. The little things that make women happy; like flowers, little random gifts (doesn't have to be expensive), a romantic dinner date, a walk at midnight, a treat at the spa, etc, they dont seem to register in most men unless it is anniversary, birthday or if they are apologizing for something. These are the little things that kill the romance in relationships. 4. Listening - when a guy is not paying attention to what you are saying. Or doesn't seem interested in your goals its like going in a boxing ring or on a soccer field without a coach or cheerleaders and be expected to score. Guys who can't remember what you said yesterday especially on important issues, can't be good partners. 5. If he doesn't respect, love or care for his mom and/or sisters or female relatives, he can't respect you - Run! 6. And then when he is always about his Mom and sometimes forget about you, then he is still a child. Mamas are sweet. They deserve to be rewarded for the great work they have done to us, but a guy who goes shopping with his Mom, without his girl around; a guy who spends more time on the phone or with his Mom that he does with his girl, he is still a child - Girls, Run. 7. A sign that a guy wants to be with you. He is not afraid or ashamed of taking you to meet his friends. If you don't know his friends, you are just another girl. Don't waste your time, he's is not worth it. I am sure each one of us have so many things we feel they turn us off. Guys too. To some guys I know these few below turn them off.... 1. Too much nagging. Some guys know that women get too emotional and they whine a lot. Then there is whining and nagging. Guys will just want to run away and hide, no wonder these days when people are buying/building homes, men want a "man cave" just so they can run away from the nagging - Just quit it girls. 2. Too much make up and the fake "everything". Men would like to see a natural woman not a barbie doll. They would want to smell the real scent of you, of course, not the bad ones, take time to clean up and groom , a good looking woman will keep her man from wondering whats in other skirts. 3. A not God-fearing woman is just a mess, guys I know will not want to associate with her. The same with a woman who behaves unlady-like. Drinking alcohol as if he is a member of a gang, smoking, mouthy women, turn guys off Keep trying to be the best you can be. Noone is perfect. But with our imperfections, love gets stronger. Enjoy each other's company by all means. Love Naghaba3